ECC Small Group Life Coach Blog

Systems...Check...All Systems Clear for Launch...You Can't hesitate

2011-07-14T14:24:00.000-07:00

My car is great at telling me when I have systems that need to be checked or updated. My computer also alerts me, as does my iPhone apps. SO, what would it take for you to have these systems check yourself?

Systems are great things to have in place. But if you have systems that are not working, it may be time to restructure your systems. Systems are beneficial in business, home, and life settings. Recently our staff went through a check of our systems. It is great to pause at least 2x a year and review the systems you have in place, look for the ones that may need to be established, and then get them all in motion. So you may ask, what are systems that you should think about or have in place for you personally? Here are a few thoughts, in no order whatsoever: family, spiritual, health, responsibilities, personal, work, & friends. In each of these areas you have a ways to grow and set systems to make better use of your time management, follow though, and life development. In this process of reviewing systems, I found some that were dead-ends, rock solid, seasonal, need some work, and then a few that need to be established.

So, take a few hours-window to walk through your systems you have or have not. This is developing you as a person. If you need someone to review them, ask someone connected to the area you are working on: family, work, social, etc...

We can all grow from establishing systems. So, take the time and review them soon, before the lights go off and the systems crash. It's easier to address them before they are in a failure process.

PUSH!

2011-07-11T13:47:00.000-07:00

I have a rule I established with my son: If someone pushes you, feel free to push back. (unless it is your sisters-then I'll take care of it) I know this may not be the rules you grew up with or rules you even establish in your household. But I want my kid to know he has permission to push people if needed. Being pushed by another kid, is permission from me to push back.
As a leader of a small group, it is very easy to not push or even push back. As a group grows closer together, a leader often draws back from anything that would bring challenge, confrontation, or even disagreement.
I think as leaders of groups we have to be able to challenge our groups in growth. If we don't, then we are just offering a party with friends. In discussion and facilitating questions, the leader must be able to press people farther in their faith. That may look different for certain people, but the need to push-has to be there. A group often forms to agree with whatever is being said, and very seldom is their a "devils' advocate" in the room. Recently, I went to a small group and there was a challenge to the discussion. There was this tension, and it wasn't a negative tension at all. It was a tension that was great for the group to wrestle with. The leader responded in a fantastic way, and other group members gave some of their thoughts. I remember walking away from that group visit, feeling that this was super great. The facilitator displayed: poise, leadership, an answer backed up by scripture, and was friendly in the response. The tension didn't linger longer than it needed too. As a matter of fact, we all ate later together, agreeing to disagree on certain things.
The point is this. As leaders, we need to step in and push those in our groups as they walk along in faith. I know that leadership is tough. Leading small groups is tough for some. I do know this though: as leaders we will face challenges and push back; we must offer it as well. Let people wrestle with the text, the questions, and push people to extend their Christian faith. We need strong believers who know why they believe what they believe. One way to do this is to give them an opportunity to push their faith, with great friends who love them.
Pushing fellow small groupers will continue to transform them individually, and as a group. So, about this and next time do a little pushing with those in your group. Pushing can be a great stretching environment, and we all know stretching is great for us all.

TAILGATER coming Sunday, June 29

2011-05-25T11:40:00.000-07:00

The ECC TAILGATER
Sponsored by Small Group Life
SUNDAY, June 26, 2011
*4pm
*Note new start time this year.

Purpose of Event:
This is an ECC Connection Event sponsored by Small Group Life. Our desire is to have as many people from ECC swing through our Tailgater, as either a Tailgate location or a participant, for good food and great friends. We will invite those not connected to walk through all the tailgates and see what amazing cooks and hosts we have at ECC. Some will be familiar faces and others may not be. Either way, we are just excited to give people the opportunity to connect with each other in a non threatening way.

Entrance: We will have a place for those to check in to get nametags and get a feel for the lay of the field.

Nametags: We’ll have nametags handed to group leaders for group leaders to distribute, and those looking for groups we will have ones at the main entrance.

Food: Each Small Group will provide enough food for themselves and others.
As a reminder, do not forget your paper products/utensils as needed.

Games: We are encouraging groups to bring games to play as a group. Bocce Ball, Frisbee, Croquet, we will have the middle of the field open to roam and play.

Weather Backup Plan: If the weather doesn’t cooperate we will notify you days in advance with what our game plan will be. In the NW we just never know, we don’t need the sun, we just need no rain.

Check in time: 3:30pm. Field cars will enter through gate on East side of field; all participants will enter through the walk way leading from the ECC parking lot.

Chairs: Bring your own and a few extras. Lawn chairs, beanbags, sofas, beach chairs, if you can sit on it, we’ll call it a chair.

Garbage: We’ll have receptacles and extras, but we encourage groups to pack it in and pack it out.

Schedule: 3:30pm-2 cars/group arrive
4pm-fun times had by all
6:30pm- close and clean up

Signage: Each group will have a sign with their name on it. This will signify the name of the group that people are walking by. We’ll make sure you have your sign upon arrival.

Childcare: None

Entry Point: Field-cars will enter through gate on East side of field; all participants will enter through the walk way leading from the ECC parking lot.
*CARS MAY ENTER THE FIELD AT 3:30pm to set up their spots. Each group is responsible to have their area set up.

Parking Team: ECC will have a team on hand to help direct traffic out on the field. .

Small Group Leader Communication
We are encouraging all groups to participate in this event as it is one of the more fun events we do all year in small groups and as a church. If you, the leader, are scheduled to be out of town, we would still encourage your group to meet without you.

Small Group Safety

2011-05-11T10:54:00.000-07:00

I found these great principles for safe small groups in Discipleship Magazine. Mary Glenn was the author of this article and I thought is was worth passing on to small group leaders.

Is your small group a safe place?
Here are 9 ways we can create a safe place environment in small group life:

1. Provide a supportive nonjudgmental space. We must learn o provide a safe place for people to discuss real issues without fear of rejection.
2. Be genuine The ability to be real is so important. When we are attentive, respectful, and above all human, people feel comfortable to share real struggles.
3. Show empathy When we make a sincere effort to understand and identify with another’s pain, we can help in the healing process.
4. Err on the side of grace It doesn’t do any good to heap condemnation on someone who’s trying to work through their own issues.
5. Communicate acceptance and show love People need to be loved just because.
6. Be a friend Friends are a much needed resource.
7. Share from your life You may not be able to relate exactly, but you have experienced your own personal struggles. You can help put the struggles into perspective and give them hope.
8. Care enough to confront Love enough to give honest feedback, but speak the truth in love.
9. Instill hope and lead them to resources that will help It has been said you can live 40 days without food, 4 days, without water, 4 minutes without air, but you can’t live seconds without hope. Be an encourager.

ACTION: Figure out a time to review these with your group. How can your group implement these? Are there any that you could work on? Personally? As a group?

The CORE of Fellowship

2011-05-10T15:07:00.000-07:00

In this crazy pace of life we live, every so often it is good to get to the core of true fellowship. For small groups, simple core principles of fellowship can be very simple and probably pretty refreshing. As I comb over Philippians 2:1-4, there are some key lines I am drawn too. These lines are core items to gauge for small group life. In this passage we find a word "fellowship" that describes the interaction of the church. The original GK word is KOINONIA. Look at the basics of small group life you find in this passage from the following lines:

Have Kindness & Compassion for one another. (v.1)

Be Humble. (v.3)

Always consider others... (v.3)

Look out for the interest of others. (v.4)

When you look at Small Groups these are the core principles we need to have. If you applied them to your group your group my look very different than it does today, or your group may be a model group with no change necessary.

In other words SMALL GROUP LIFE CORE PRINCIPLES are summed up in Fellowship this way:

LOVE unconditionally.

TRANSCENDENT CAUSES where we serve together for the mission of Christ.

VALUES/PURPOSE to uphold each individuals purpose in life.

RESPONSIBILITIES to help each other experience transformation.

In which area may your small group need to improve? Step out and do better at? In which area can you lead better at?

Don't Be Stinky

2011-05-05T11:03:00.000-07:00

I have a friend, who will remain nameless, that I grew up with that stunk all the time. He used deodorant, he brushed his teeth, he took showers; however, he did not take care of everything that could cause this stink problem. The reason he stunk all the time was due to his smelly shoes. He was an athlete, and his stinky shoes that he wore all the time brought us to the point where a group had to have an intervention. High school can be brutal, but imagine what he felt like when we said, "Dude, you stink, and you are causing us to stink because you are not using proper shoe hygiene. If you want to hang with us, fix the problem." The problem was he didn't even know he stunk, that was the sad part. Small group leaders can start to stink and not even know it. Here are some observations on how to avoid the STINK:

Lead the dialogue, don't dominate with a monologue.

Every so often it is good to get back to the basics. Rinse, wash, rinse, dry.

Be the Leader, not an observer of the group.

Change the schedule and routine of small group.

Engage the small group in FRESH ways.

Be Creative- art projects and songs help kids remember what they heard and learned about. The same is true for adults.

If you need a break, there are others in your group who can lead a discussion for a night.

DON'T WING IT. Know what the verses say, what the questions are, and be prepared.

Lead the charge on setting understandings and ground rules for group success.

In Common

2011-04-28T10:16:00.000-07:00

It is sad, but is said that Americans are among the loneliest people in the world. Problem with Americans is they are over committed, too busy, live in these congested environments, and still find no time to build relationship. We live, work, walk by many people daily. However, most conversation is surface, if there is any verbal communication at all. Maybe a head nod, a wave, or a "Hey". Here is the kicker, it is a sad day we live in, when we can have all these people around us, yet we don't have meaningful relationships with most of them. Recently they found a man living alone deep in the jungle of South America. Think with me if you will about the life this man must lived. Conversations with nature, the forest, maybe God(or a spirit he might have talked too), birds of the air, animals....who knows. But all of us have the opportunity to have people speak into our life, or vice versa, yet we live like this man in concrete jungles, where we only talk to a computer screen, television, a pet, or ourselves. We are relational beings created by a God that digs community. We cannot and must not be isolated. Yes, we may all be wired differently with attitude, temperaments, language, likes and dislikes; however, we were not designed to be isolated.
I have certain friends that I bond with over various things. It could be in common faith, in common family, in common friends, in common sport fans, in common hobbies, in common likes and dislikes. That should be the case for us all. May it never be said, that I died a lonely life. I, Me You, We have people that we have things IN COMMON with. Find them, talk to them, serve them, love them, and share with them.
What you will find is there are people just like you, looking for people just like you to live life together!

Ways to ACTIVATE Scripture in our Life

2011-03-22T13:25:00.000-07:00

I heard a great line once regarding discipleship. There should always be an open Bible between me and the person I am discipling. You have heard and I have given you the tools for the “grip on scriptures.” Hear, Read, Study, Memorize, and Meditate.

I want to give you 3 more tools that may be of help to you. Without personal strategies for connecting with God, our daily agendas tend to become: I must have, I must be, I must achieve. But exercises such as Scripture meditation cultivates the heart and guard it from stubborn habits.

The SOAP Method-
S-cripture
O-bservation
A-pplication
P-rayer
The idea behind SOAP is to make it a journal when studying scriptures.

3-Step Meditation Process- lectio divina or spiritual reading. Lectio is the attempt to read more with the heart than the head. The idea is not to cover an amount of scripture, but rather surrender to whatever word or phrase catches the attention. A slow meditative reading….really relies on the respect of the power of words to resonate with the full range of experience. Here are the 3 steps:
• Observation- taking the first look- what’s going on? Who are the players? What are the important ideas? Concepts? How do I feel about this?
• Investigation- going deeper-what can I discover? What questions do I need to ask God? What can I discover about myself? Are there any words that I need to define? What is the main point, idea, the author communicating?
• Application- responding in love. What is the takeaway? How does God
Change my life if I apply this? How can I respond to the Holy Spirit in the next 24 hours?

5x5x5- Scripture is one of God’s ordained ways of life transformation-don’t take it for granted. It’s easy to read someone else's thoughts through devotionals. It’s like trying to kiss someone you love through the window of your car. There is the illusion of intimacy, but little first hand experience. So here is a great tool to get you hooked.
5 Minutes a Day-
5 Days a Week-
5 Ways to Approach Scripture- underline the key words or thoughts, write your own translation, ask questions, capture the big idea, and personalize the meaning.

How do we ACTIVATE Scripture as a way of life into the life of Small Group Lifers:
 Learn from Jesus.
o He didn’t invest time with multitudes, he invested in a select few.
 Think big but start small.
o The Gk text of Matthew 28:18-20 uses three words: ‘go’, ‘baptize’, and ‘teach’. All are participles which derive from one controlling verb “make disciples.” The great commission is about ‘making disciples’.
 Think in generations.
o The Bible is peppered with individual personalities. Each of these individuals had the potential to influence others for Christ. This is pictured through scripture in generations.
 Be intentional!
o Jesus focused His ministry toward a picture of maturity. He had a bulls eye on energies focused toward disciple making. So should you!
 Picture discipleship.
o Jesus is at the center. Disciplines act as spokes in a wheel, that lead us to movement and structure.
 Take action!
o What is your commitment to coming alongside people and making disciples?

Hope one of these helps you in your journey of transformation.

Small Group Life LEADERSHIP

2011-02-21T11:48:00.000-08:00

What does it take to be a Small Group Leader at ECC? As I think about this question a few things come to mind. However, I want to focus on the why, first. Leadership is important in many facets of life. Why leadership-well because if no one steps up to lead then chaos normally follows. You can turn on your television at any moment during the day right now, to have that point proven. The fact is simple: WE NEED LEADERS. Small group life is no different. We need people who can walk alongside others and help lead healthy conversations. Jesus was a Master at this-yes, pun intended. He picked a handful of guys, and fed into them with discipleship discussions, corrective conversations, equipping exchanges, and encouraging encounters. For Jesus, He was a natural, for the rest of us they are learned. Yes, they can be and should be learned. Why leadership? Right now, we need men and women to step up and walk with others through life and help them develop friends who will live life together. It is about growing relationally, spiritually, and journeying together through this things we call life. ECC is at a harvest time in our Small Group Ministry and we are excited to be launching new small groups in the days to come. We need leaders and hosts to step up and step in. We will as a church walk alongside you, give you the tools to lead, and development ops to be a leader in small group life. Some of our current groups have leaders stacked up and shelved, and instead of multiplying as we have done in year's past, we will be activating and launching new groups. The key is leadership and if you are willing to lead, we are willing to help you by walking with you. Lives are being transformed at ECC and a part of our mission is to help connect these transformed lives to others.

ReGroup Leadership Night

2011-02-21T11:43:00.000-08:00

RE:GROUP
Sunday, February 27, 2011
5pm @ ECC
North Auditorium

A night four our small group life leaders and hosts to come together for coaching, leadership development, camaraderie, stories from the front, and encouragement.

Dinner served. Childcare provided.

The concept behind this night is to rally our leadership and see where we have been and where we are headed as a church of small groups. See YOU there!

SMALL GROUPS- Initiate, ACTIVATE, Demonstrate

2011-02-09T16:26:00.000-08:00

Small Groups are an important part of the body of Christ. Each person should have people around them that can do life together. Life is not meant to be lived alone, and for those who do-it can end up very sad. The thought that keeps coming back to me as I look at SMall Group LIfe @ ECC this year is this. SMALL GROUPS must ACTIVATE. Activate is a word that gets most of its meanings from science. Check out it's meanings:
–verb (used with object), -vat·ed, -vat·ing.
1. to make active; cause to function or act.
2. Physics .
a. to render more reactive; excite: to activate a molecule.
b. to induce radioactivity.
3. to aerate (sewage) in order to accelerate decomposition of impure organic matter by microorganisms.
4. Chemistry .
a. to make (carbon, a catalyst, molecules, etc.) more active.
b. to hasten (reactions) by various means, as heating.
5. to place (a military unit or station) on an active status in an assigned capacity.

When I read that definition-I think immediately that is what small group life should be about at ECC. It has been said that faith needs to be initiated, activated, and demonstrated. I think the same is true for SMALL GROUP LIFE. We must activate ourselves into small groups. This is where we will grow, be challenged, live life-bothe the ups and downs with others. We are about creating cultures that provide opportunities for discipleship, connecting in God's Word, and holding each other up. To do that, some of us must RE-activate. Let's stop talking about it now-and this year let's ACTIVATE small group life.

CREATIVITY & Small Groups

2011-01-03T13:26:00.000-08:00

I think one of the biggest killer, if not the greatest killer, in small groups is lack of creativity. For groups who have been together for 2 months or 2 years, it can be a killer-to month after month-try and have some new fresh and creative approach on how to make small group happen. Creativity is a big and scary word for most leaders, because they don;t think they have it! Fact is, we have all had it from day one! Where we not created in God's image? Is he not the Creator of creativity. In case you missed it, Genesis 1 is a great place to pick up and see some of God's best work in creativity to date! I recently read an article on creativity, and thought how appropriate some of the simple disciplines can be acquired by our leadership to make groups greater! Carlos Whitaker, a creative coach, and artist uses 3 words to spurn creativity. Here are his words: and my thoughts on these:
INNOVATE- Something new doesn't mean cool. Most of the things we see today are a re-vamped version of something from the passed anyway. Innovation can come in simple yet subtle changes to current practices or routines. Study in a different place. Take a new route to work. Order a different drink at your coffeehouse. Try and branch out or stretch your mind.
EXPLORE- Set a scheduled time to break what you are currently working on and log ideas on paper as they come to you. This may be regarding scripture, an activity, a group adventure, or even a group growth plan. Make it a habit to explore when thinking about small group time. This will help filter your ideas and you will come up with lists of ideas, as opposed to coming up with ideas with another 10 people trying to shoot down spontaneous ones.
DISTURB & DISRUPT- It can be hard to disturb and disrupt Christ followers who are so set on routine. What if you messed the whole small group night up by eating at the end, or singing, or splitting the group up into smaller groups, something out of routine. Disturb and disrupting an entire night is part of the creative process. You want your group to look different then disturb and disrupt. Old ideas are so 2010, so this year as we embark on 2011-come up with new ways to utilize your time and prep for small group life.
Creativity is a God-given gift that most people are unaware they possess. I think that creativity is the way to go in making Small Group Life exciting, unpredictable, and a magnet for growth in all ways possible.
Take some time and make creativity a apart of the process when thinking small groups. If not, stale small groups will mold over and rot away.

Plans to Bless

2010-11-08T11:29:00.001-08:00

As a family we find it important to discuss how we can bless others over the holidays. In our consumer mentality I find it really easy to get caught in the trap of basically overdoing it at Christmas time on ourselves. As a small group, I also think it is important to get out of the what can we do for ourselves mindset. So, this year I am encouraging you to think about an non-profit organization or a family that you can bless as a small group. It could even be someone within your small group who may have had a rough year. Last year Americans spent billions of dollars at Christmas time, this year think about others as you approach the Christmas season. Maybe there is a fmaily that you are aware of that just needs to be loved on. That may include just inviting them over to be a part of your small group night or celebration for Christmas. In this seson of celebration, it also the loneliest time of year for most people with no family connection. So, let us model what blessings look like at ECC. I know that when we as a family reach out to those in need, it not only blesses those we shower with blessing, it also is a great reward and return on our investment in others. This season people need to be blessed, so determine what and who and how that may look for you ad your small group.

CONNECTION POINTS IN SGL

2010-10-19T09:59:00.000-07:00

This past week I had a guy talk to me about a small group he was a part of. He was bummed because throughout the small group there had plenty of time for social connection, but there was no time for any God connection. He wasn't asking for a study, or to even open the Bible and look for a ton of verses. He was basically looking to connect with God & the group through prayer. Small Group Life is all about connection and community building with each other and most importantly God. Through different venues and meeting times it is easy for groups to lose track of time and end up spending the time talking into the evening. This is great! I do think a great way to wrap up the night, every night you meet, is with a corporate prayer over the members. I know my friend had a rough week and all he wanted was those in his group to stand with him for the week to come. Small group life has many different venues and ways to connect in discipleship, praise, community, serving, & leading people to Christ. I encourage small group leaders always to allow time to close out in some prayer over those in your groups and the needs they may carry in. Some times hanging out is good, all the time hanging out with God in prayer with your group is great.

What are you Called to do?

2010-09-29T11:01:00.000-07:00

As a kid, I knew I had a calling. It included a fast car and a race track...then that was interrupted by a pigskin and pads playing on grass...then I figured why not a leather ball and a court. What was happening was that I was looking at what I wanted to do, not what God really had for me. God got my attention by bringing people into my life that did not know each other, but each had a word for me, about what God had been stirring in my heart. God has called me simply "to communicate God's word through thought provoking, creative methods. Using my God given ability to equip, empower, and encourage a generation to a real relationship with Jesus Christ. I am called to to use my leadership, influence, and friendship to inspire authentic faith." As I write this I think of Paul, who knew his calling too. Paul lived, breathed, slept, and awoke every day to the call of God on his life. Paul did everything he could possible to attain God's call in his life. He didn't jog toward it, he owned a fierce determination to press ahead. As a matter of fact Paul uses a phrase in Phil. 3:12, "I follow after". This is a fierce word that in Gk literature means to track down, hunt, pursue, as a hunter would its prey. It carries the connotation of hunting down something and will stop at nothing until it is caught. Paul uses the same verbiage to discuss his passion for God's calling on his life. Paul uses this phrase to describe his desire, which was modeled by Jesus Christ. Paul did what he was supposed to, it took determination and hard work. It took concentration and full attention teamed with the Holy Spirit to find, accept, and live his calling. So, do you know what you are called to do? Are you willing to put in the hard work to make it happen? Take action and get to it, it is not too late to fulfill the calling in your life. God has a plan for your life. Engage with God today and let God speak to your calling? helpful hint: be ready to listen!

Is your small group a safe place?

2010-09-29T10:30:00.000-07:00

Is your small group a safe place? (abbreviated version from an article I recently read.)

Here are 9 ways we can create a safe place environment in small group life:
1. Provide a supportive nonjudgmental space.
We must learn o provide a safe place for people to discuss real issues without fear of rejection.
2. Be genuine
The ability to be real is so important. When we are attentive, respectful, and above all human, people feel comfortable to share real struggles.
3. Show empathy
When we make a sincere effort to understand and identify with another’s pain, we can help in the healing process.
4. Err on the side of grace
It doesn’t do any good to heap condemnation on someone who’s trying to work through their own issues.
5. Communicate acceptance and show love
People need to be loved just because.
6. Be a friend
Friends are a much needed resource.
7. Share from your life
You may not be able to relate exactly, but you have experienced your own personal struggles. You can help put the struggles into perspective and give them hope.
8. Care enough to confront
Love enough to give honest feedback, but speak the truth in love.
9. Instill hope and lead them to resources that will help
It has been said you can live 40 days without food, 4 days, without water, 4 minutes without air, but you can’t live seconds without hope. Be an encourager.

by Mary Glenn, Discipleship Magazine

A Taste of Missions

2010-09-20T13:17:00.000-07:00

Sunday, October 3rd, 5-7pm
ECC ACTIVITY CENTER

We are asking all Small Groups to participate in this amazing night to celebrate the end of our mission's Commission Conference. Our church is all about missions and this night we will ahve missionaries on hand to celebrate their stories and ministries with us. We will also have small groups rpresenting food from all over the world. Each group has signed up to being entrees and desserts from all over the world-made fresh by Small Group Life. We invite you and your family to be with us for this incredible night.

Keeping Politics out of Small Groups

2010-08-18T09:19:00.000-07:00

Tis the season for political ads and candidates getting everything in order for their Fall showdowns, um I mean elections. For the next few months we will be bombarded as Americans with new ads telling everything right about one candidate and everything wrong about their opponent. In lieu of this, it is important to address the role of small group leaders and bringing politics into small group discussions. Their is a place for these conversations and the platform of small groups is not one of them. I don't care if you are Democrat, Republican, Independent, or Tea Party(ier), what I do care about is if you bring a political agenda up and argue or lecture on your viewpoint. Small groups, as I have said, are not teaching environments, they are discussion based Bible studies where everyone talks. Politics is one topic that can bring many differing viewpoints and cause healthy conversations, to become attacking and vicious(UH...hello-the candidates themselves do it all the time) I have plenty of conversations with some of my best friends regarding politics and we don't agree on everything. In fact, we can have civil, yet heated debates, on certain topics and walk away with respect for each other and our differing view points. But in the case of small groups, it is not the platform. So, let me be clear: bringing the political conversation into small groups is inappropriate. The important factor is that we do exercise our right to vote and do so accordingly. When we use our leadership platform to express our views because we have an audience in the conmfort of our own family room, then the power of leadership is being abused. It's like me inviting you to my house then making you listen to a business venture and then asking for your money-it makes everyone feel awkward and annoyed. (by the way the last is an example and would never happen at my house, nor should it at yours:) So, as we move forward into the Fall and get back into the swing of small groups-remember the reason we have small groups and stick to the game plan.

THE ECC TAILGATER is coming

2010-08-03T11:25:00.001-07:00

THE ECC TAILGATER is COMING

THE ECC ALL CHURCH TAILGATER
SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 5, 2010
ECS BALLFIELD 4-7pm

This is a great connection point for the ECC community. This night is filled with those tailgating with great food off the back of their car's tailgates. We encourage those who want to join the party to sign up and get your friends and family hanging out with the community at ECC. This has been a great place to connect people in a casual and fun environment. We look forward to you hanging with us. Each Tailgate group is responsible for their own food and clean up. We will have on hand for the kids inflatables and activities to keep them having a blast, while the Small Groups lead the charge in tailgates-we are inviting anyone to be a part. Come enjoy Labor Day weekend and Tailgate with us.
Any questions contact us at the office 360.352.3410.

Falling Through The Cracks

2010-07-27T09:59:00.000-07:00

In the church world there are two terms that no leader wants to hear. They are: A.) "people exiting out the back door of the church" & B.) "fell through or falling through the cracks". Basically these thoughts are dreadful to hear because it means the 'church' has done a bad job of not catching people who are walking through the front doors and are missing getting them to get involved in most cases. Most people respond best to a personal invite or a face to face conversation. When GUESTS arrive on campus they will only take 3 minutes to decide their 1st impressions. People who exit out the back door are those who have stuck around for a while trying to connect(and in some cases maybe not trying) and then leave because they feel no connection keeping them here. People exit out the back door for various reasons. There are a few ways to shut the back door and there are books that have ways to help avoid them. I think it is pretty simple though: The best way to shut the back door is for people to connect in relationship with those they may not know. I'm not talking about strangers walking in and trying to connect, I'm saying people who call the churh their home should be the one's reaching out connecting. The back door will be shut when people reach out and make people feel welcome, whether they know them or not. In the context of small groups it may come from a leader who follows up with an e-mail or personal phone call to someone who may be interested in joining a group. I've had some people say, I never heard from a small group. I interpret this two ways: I screwed up, or the small group leader I sent them too never made contact. Either way, it is bad news. For those that are guests, it may be just the way somebody connects with them as they walk through the door. I know this, some people exit out the back for all the wrong reasons and some because frankly-they have no desire to connect. But when I hear someone has exited it is a sad state of mind. So, that being said, what are you doing to help prevent the back door from being left open and people exiting? Are you being friendly? Starting conversations with people you may not know? Inviting people to connect in small groups circles. Let's work on stopping people from falling through the cracks. It is the best thing we can do as a family.

SUMMERTIME MEMORIES

2010-07-26T13:33:00.000-07:00

Looking back in my life, summer's were the best season. (still are in my opinion-especially in the NW) Not just cause DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince put out a summertime anthem, but because as a kid, summer's ruled. I have vivid memories of family vacations to see the grandparents, playing with my friends all day, VBS, missions trips and summer camps with my church, cruising with my friends all over, and I even got to stay up late because I didn't have school the next day. Summer is my birthday, my anniversary and pretty much the best. Again, this is being spoken from a person who sees the sun only a few months a year. All this to say is that summer is about making memories. I am making them with my family now and with our friends. When you are living life with your friends and family you will be making many memories for the years to come. I encourage you to think about ways to make some fun memories and then go out and make them happen. Hopefully this can happen in the context of small group life. Doing life together in small groups is definitely one way to make lasting memories. SO, what are you going to do this summer that you'll remember 5-10-20 years from now.

Words that Describe YOUR Leadership

2010-07-07T14:20:00.000-07:00

A few weeks ago, the world lost a coaching legend. John Wooden. This coach had one losing season in 40+ years of coaching (his first year). What was amazing about this leadership legend was that he set a precedent as a leader that is simply amazing. When former players are asked to describe John Wooden they roll out words like: "caring, driven, professional, organized, moral, gracious, honest, patient, loyal, demanding", and the list goes on and on-literally for a long while. When asked to describe words that would be complaints of this leader...you find few. These were players who didn't start, did not like the offense, and even then offered rare complaints. This is a mark of a true leader. YES-you will have critics. John Wooden did. You will also have those who don't agree with every opinion, suggestion, leadership move, or decision. However, to be able to have people you lead use the words that were used to describe John Wooden, would be quite the compliment. So, as you lead through life in different circles- PTA, city meetings, a church small group, your family, neighborhood association, business team, or employees think of the way you lead and the words described by the people you lead. The reason John Wooden is a legend and voted the Coach of the Century-wasn't all about winning, it was about principles, character, faith, and leadership. John Wooden may have been old school but his lessons and example of leadership principles lived out are legendary and should be re-ushered in to the environments we find ourlseves in. So, what are the words that describe your leadership abilities? You may not have these qualities now, but it is never too late to start on the road of being a legendary leader with the people in your circles. It starts today, get on with it already.

Small Group is about LIFE!

2010-06-28T13:40:00.000-07:00

Launching Small Groups at any church can be fun, exciting, challenging, and confusing. Small groups are really about a few key elements: connecting in community, life transformation, and being doers of God's Word. Whether intentional or not, food normally plays into the small group mentality too. That being said, we are about expanding small group life, so that more people can experience community in a way that says, "We don't want you to do life alone." This past month, our small group has rallied around each other in so many different ways. We celebrated births of babies, served each other, prayed for an unexpected hospital visit by a groupie, wrestled with questions pertaining to God, and laughed-a lot! Really as you walk through life, do you really want to live life alone? 1 in 4 Americans live life alone or isolated, and because of this, many of these 'loners' are on meds for depression. So, is there a direct correlation between those who encircle themselves with people. Well, we do know this- the people with friends and support systems live life longer. So, what will it take for you to engage in a small group where you can live life alone with people who care for you? This past week I ran into an old 'small groupie' from over 3 years ago, and even from a different state. We immediately struck up a conversation, and since she was in line behind me, I bought her a coffee(cuz I role like that). The point is this- small group friends should last for life. Are you connected to one? You should be!

Corrective Conversations

2010-05-20T09:59:00.000-07:00

As a kid the worst conversations to have were when I was getting corrected by an adult. It happened a lot. If you never have any of these conversations then chances are you have a lot to learn. Small Group leaders must too have these conversations. As an alongsider it is important to know the role you play as one who has to have and lead corrective conversations. These are not always fun conversations, but they are necessary. Jesus had to have them with his disciples. As an alongsider you help in the discipleship process. Sometimes that means correcting people that need it. In our house we have corrective conversations frequently. Because as we are in the disciple raising stage of parenthood, we are having to have these conversations with our kids. They revolve around respect, honesty, response, manners, attitude, and even proper understanding of what the Bible means and says. For small group life sometimes these corrective conversations may mean conflict, but I have learned that the best way to have these corrective conversations is to use scripture to be your source.

2 Tim. 3:16
All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,

Discipleship Discussions

2010-05-04T09:30:00.000-07:00

If you hung out with Jesus for any period of time when He walked this earth, you would know that He had some important one-on-one discussions. If you walk with Him now, you will also know that it doesn't take very long before He has these same conversations through prayer, the Word, or an encounter with someone He has crossed in front of your journey. “COME & SEE” was the invitation he offered to the disciples when He asked them to follow Him. He used parables, visual aides, questions, and homework to draw those who followed in discussions of discipleship. If we don’t become explorers and stay with our boat of small groupers tied to the same routine, we will get bored with the scenery of discipleship making, frustrated with our leaders, and people will look for a new adventure in a new boat. People want to learn, and learners want to explore. They are thirsty, they want an adventure filled with faith risks, they want to learn from the scriptures, they want challenge from questions, they want new and fresh ideas to make the discipleship process interesting. What they don’t want is a boat tied to a shoreline, that does not move and the scenery looks the same every time you meet. Jesus was creative with His discipleship, and as a follower of Him, we must be also. Jesus asked questions, offered adventure, and peaked curiosity...as leaders we should do the same thing. After all, Jesus gave us some great examples of how to do it.

Equipping Exchanges

2010-04-19T14:37:00.000-07:00

Everyday you have a number of exchanges with people that range from politics to the weather. These exchanges take place sometimes as expected, and other times unexpected. Either way, they are exchanges and you shuold always be prepared.

What do your everyday exchanges look like with the people you come in contact with? As Christ followers, our conversations have to be about more than the weather, politics, and sports. They have to center around Jesus. They have to be equipping in nature, and when Christ is central, that breathes out in everyday exchanges. What are we doing to equip people when we have exchanges? There are people that I know as soon as I am in conversation with them, that they will say something I can be equipped by. There are others that I know when I am in conversation with, that I will be doing the equipping. So, either way, an equipping exchange will happen.

In scripture we see an OT personality who is a leader and nation-builder, Joshua. Joshua’s impact was so significant that the author of Judges wrote, “The people served the Lord throughout the lifetime of Joshua.” (Judges 1:7) But then comes one of the saddest commentaries in the Bible. When Joshua and his contemporaries passed away, “another generation grew up, who knew neither the Lord nor what he had done for Israel.” What a sad commentary on a group of leaders. How did this happen? A clue is found in what’s missing from the biblical record. From the beginning of the exodus, Moses came alongside of Joshua, preparing him for leadership. When Moses received the Law, “Joshua his aid” was with him (Exodus 24:13). Joshua witnessed Moses’ friendship with God (Exodus 33:11). At the end of his life, Moses laid his hands on Joshua, filling him with the spirit of wisdom (Deuteronomy 34:9). The Israelites naturally followed him because Moses’ stamp of authority was on his life (Deuteronomy 34:9). Moses came alongside of Joshua, and because of that, Joshua was hanging in the gallery of Moses.

So what’s missing in Judges? We don’t hear of Joshua mentoring another leader to take his place! It appears that he neglected this important principle of generations. There was no equipping exchanges to raise up new leadership. One of Protestantism’s greatest evangelists was the 18th century preacher, George Whitfield. Whitfield’s ministry touched thousands of people in America and in Great Britain, sparking the Great Awakening in the Colonies. He was a contemporary and friend with another great British leader, John Wesley. As Whitfield faced the cessation of his ministry, he sadly lamented: My brother Wesley acted wisely. The souls that were awakened under his ministry he joined in societies or tribes[small groups]; and thus preserved the fruit of his labor. This I neglected and my people are a rope of sand.
What a sad commentary! Without a commitment to equipping exchanges, we can leave behind a slowly dissolving legacy of a rope of sand. As a group leader it is important to be to generations; and for that to happen you have to come alongside people.

Are you a Moses or a Joshua?

ALONGSIDER CHALLENGE- Encouraging Encounters

2010-04-13T14:46:00.000-07:00

The year was 1987, I was in 7th grade & I actually got the chance to be graded on my art skills. Art class was by far the best elective I had that year. Taught by Ms. Schumacher, it was an afternoon class, which made the afternoon hours fly by. It was there that I actually became inspired to do great things in the artistic world. It was there I learned about the techniques, the many forms of art, the history, and the famous artists whose works we have come to be mesmerized by. Fast forward to 1998-over 10 years later I found myself looking for a hobby to keep me busy in my “free time” as a young single pastor. So, I bought the Bob Ross painting kit, I figured if he could paint happy trees and make it look easy, so could I. In my short lived art career I painted a total of 11 paintings. The four most important ladies in my life all received them: My mother, my nana, my grandmother, and this cute little chic I was just starting to date named Jenelle. 3 of the 4 beautiful landscape pictures made there way to the walls of these ladies-One in a bedroom, one in a family room, and one in a home office. The last one, which was also the best one, found its way behind a bedroom door, of an unnamed cute little chic. Over the years the paintings grew into a collection which was moved to adorn the walls of my garage. That was until the ultimatum to get them out of our home was made. From there the paintings made there ways to white elephant giveaways, prizes for Bunko nights, and 3 found there way to the trash bin. 2 remain today in the houses of my grandmothers, because they love me.

When you hear the word MASTERPIECE, many images may come to mind. As small group leaders each of us, have a hand in establishing masterpieces. In your individual gallery each painting is surrounded by the framework you bring. I believe that the CANVAS & the FRAMEWORK is a must for every masterpiece, and every one of you are sculpting masterpieces. It just takes more time for some masterpieces.

Small GROUP LIFE is part of the strategic delivery system to model Christ’s discipleship AT ECC. Small Group Life is a foundation for growing disciples.

HOW MANY OF YOU ARE GOOD AT PUBLIC SPEAKING?
HOW MANY OF YOU COULD BEFRIEND SOMEONE, COME ALONGSIDE OF THEM AND READ SCRIPTURE WITH THEM?

Suppose we hung a new picture in the gallery of our minds? What would happen if we called disciplemakers “alongsiders”? This wonderful New Testament word is paraklesis, a calling to one’s side. Jesus taught that the Holy Spirit is the ultimate alongsider, the “counselor” or “helper,” who is with us forever (John 14:16). We partner with the Spirit when we come alongside people to counsel, encourage, or exhort (1 Thes 2:11,12). The term I want you to get in your spirit is the term “ALONGSIDER”. This is a small group leader, who comes alongside someone as they walk through the disciple making process.

Alongsiders intentionally do some simple things. They build authentic friendships, read the Bible with others, tell stories, and ask questions. Alongsiders encourage application and accountability. Finally, alongsiders invite people to live on mission with them, advancing the gospel and recruiting others to follow Jesus as His disciples. Is this a picture you would like to hang in your mind’s gallery?
This is the picture of discipleship making at ECC. The reality is often this…the pictures that we hold in our mind either motivate us in the disciple making process, or they hinder & hold us back. So what pictures are hanging in your gallery?

The Master of “ALONGSIDER MINISTRY” was Jesus. SO, using examples of Jesus from the BIBLE, I want to point out particular practices.

Encouraging Encounters- A lot of people, Christ Follower or not, have this image of Jesus as this very firm, non-smiling, pious character. I have to think that Jesus had a humorous side to him. I believe He was approachable and I know for a fact that He lived his life outside of worship and ministry. If you look through scripture you see that Jesus had ENCOURAGING ENCOUNTERS in venues like weddings, dinners, hanging out and wrestling with kids, friend’s houses, and on the lake. Jesus had to have water fights with his disciples, food fights, and had to play a few jokes on people. The throws of life and ministry were not confined to a building or prayer time. Ministry happened in the messiness of life. As a leader we have encounters that turn into place of encouragement.

For each of us we are painting our own gallery to hang. These are pictures of people that you are currently or have in the past poured life into. For you tonight, these pictures you are hanging in your gallery right now are pictures of people in your small group, that as leaders you are ALONGSIDERS too. As you paint these pictures you are helping these people move forward in life. In Romans 15:14 it says, “I myself am convinced, my brothers, that you yourselves are full of goodness, complete in knowledge and competent to instruct one another.”
There are 3 qualities of ALONGSIDERS from this passage.
Convinced
Complete
Competent
Reflect on the relationships you have where you live, work, play, or worship. Can you build an authentic friendship with someone? Can you can read the Bible with a friend? What about telling some stories or asking some questions? When you do these things, you’ve hung the picture of an alongsider in the gallery of your mind.

Are you ready to take down some old pictures and replace them with a new one? Hanging a picture of an alongsider jump-starts a lifechanging adventure with God and others.

INHERITANCE-it's not just money!

2010-03-31T11:53:00.000-07:00

Inheritance is normally a word culture attaches to money. That may be true in some instances, but the original meaning referred to "a transfer of something of great value, as a legacy or promise." We have seen people in our lifetime inherit things: genes, looks, money, reputation, family related personal items, business, or land. Have you ever stopped to think about what you have inherited? God gives us a word in scripture that tells us that we will be on the receiving end of a transfer of something of great value, as in our legacy and promise for our life. Here are some passages of scripture that are worth reading regarding the inheritance we can claim: Psalm 16:5, Psalm 37:18, Proverbs 3:35, Proverbs 13:22, Ephesians 1:14, and Colossians 3:24-25.
My prayer for today is that I can pause in the midst of my day and claim God's promise for my life. I choose to walk in God's peace & provision through whatever difficult time may come my way, and walk with faith as I keep my eyes on you, God.
As you think about the word inheritance, what does it mean to you? Are you in a position to pass an inheritance of a lifetime to someone else that revolves around the promise of God's Word? As I hear the word, I look at the opportunity to leave an inheritance that revolves around legacy, and am less worried about receiving one of things.

FRAMEWORK for DISCIPLING

2010-03-24T10:20:00.000-07:00

Jesus was the master of many things, and one that stands out is that of discipling. After all, He was such a master at this, that the ones closest to Him, who followed Him, were in fact called disciples. (understudies, mentees, coachees, etc...) Jesus framed those who followed Him with a model that we, as leaders, should follow. In every encounter Jesus had with people He had one of the following: Discipleship Discussions, Equipping Exchanges, Corrective Conversations, and Encouraging Encounters. As framers we should be active in pursuing one of these in every conversation we have. The frame we are building with these practices, is helping frame a masterpiece created by God, that He has put in our path for a time to lead. The images in the gallery that we hang in our mind need to be viewed as the names that we are helping frame. So, who are they and where do you intersect with them? Teams, neighborhood, small group, committees/boards, family...the list of possibilities is long. We need to get in our mind the ALONGSIDER mindset. We have to come alongside people and encounter, engage, equip, and empower them to live out their faith in the way God designed them too. As an alongsider we are walking alongside these friends as life happens. Whether it is messy or whether it has the appearance of cleanliness, we are in a position to speak into the life of others. A part of that ability to speak into the life of others comes through relationship. I have people that have that permission to speak into my life, because they have relationship. Those who speak into my life with no relationship, well there message falls to ears that don't understand the words coming out of their mouth. As framers, we are key in making sure they have an understanding of God's Word. In His Word, we have a great example of Jesus framing disciples. Let's us also make it our habit to start building frames. In the days to come I'll break down the 4 sides to the framework.

STAND FIRM

2010-03-16T08:48:00.001-07:00

Stand Firm is a phrase found in the Bible that is spoken from some of the most recognizable names: Moses, David, Isaiah, and Paul to name a few. This phrase carries the same meaning in English as it does in Greek. It is the ability to offer resistance to someone or somebody, or refuse to abandon one's belief or opinion. Throughout the Bible the phrase STAND FIRM is used to remind the people of the Lord's promises, the warriors position in battle, and the Christ followers stance in their faith. I have this image in my head of what it looks like to stand firm. The image comes from one of my all time fave movies BRAVEHEART. In the scene William Wallace has picked a fight, and the English are waging war. There comes a point on the battle field when the ENGLISH lead an attack, William Wallace and the Scots, take a place in the field and literally stand there as an army is rushing them. They do not move, they hold their spot, they STAND FIRM. Just as the English are about to unleash hell on them in battle, the Scots still holding their strong stance and position reach behind them and lift up spears made of trees. As they raise them, there is a little push back but the line holds strong. This illustration is what it is like when we are attacked by life's circumstances, or the enemy attacks us. Although fast moving, deceptive, and intimidating, when we STAND FIRM in our faith in Christ, we will not be pushed back, but we will be the VICTOR. So today in whatever may come your way, I encourage you to STAND FIRM, because when your feet are placed on THE ROCK (Jesus Christ), you will be able to hold your ground.

RE:GROUP LEADERSHIP EVENT @ ECC

2010-03-10T12:53:00.000-08:00

RE:GROUP
I am stoked for our Small Group Life Leadership night on Sunday, March 21, 2010. This is a night where we RE:GROUP as small group ministry leaders and are reminded of our role of being: engaged, encouraged, equiped, and empowered to come alongside the many people looking to connect in community.

This year includes breakout sessions led by some of our SGL coaching team. These sessions include:

Getting out of the Weekly Funk of Small Group Life
Leadership Development
The Art of the Ask-Facilitating Discussion
Transformation & Discipleship Tools to Gage Group Growth

Incorporated into the night will be a progressive dinner as we move sessions, and as you rotate it will move you toward a selection of different menu items.

The night will include a talk about the importance of Small Group Life Leaders and vision in this time of church transition, dinner, breakout sessions, and conclude with a time of corporate prayer.

Here are the details:

Sunday, March 21, 2010
North Auditorium
Evergreen Christian Community (Oly Campus)
5p
RSVP to Kathy Staff kathy@ecconline.cc

Childcare provided up to age 10 (dinner included)
RSVP for childcare to Kathy at kathy@ecconline.cc

Living Intentionally in God's Will

2010-03-01T14:13:00.001-08:00

SHHHHH......do you hear that voice? Do you sense that someone has something special for you? Do you even realize that you were created to live an intentional life? There are many words that can be used to describe when you live out God's Will for your life: rewarding, joyous, promising, confident, and even confusing. I understand that God has a plan for my life. At every juncture in my walk with God, He has revealed the personal and perfect plan He has for me. I will be honest, I have not always understood it, I have been mad about on a few occasions, and even confused at times; however, I will never question it or fight it. I have found when I am living in God's will for my life that it is challenging, rewarding, and better than I could have expected. At times I can be frustrated with circumstances, people, things, and life. I have also found that God has put me in places to grow, be challenged, comfort someone else, be stretched, and even be reminded of God's will for my life. If I had chosen the will for my life, certain things would have been different, and the fact is, probably very chaotic. What I have seen is people who try and make their own life happen and try and impose their will(often selfish in nature) into life and circumstances-chaos occurs. I know that God set me up to succeed, persevere, expand my territory, and yes-be challenged. While following God's Will for my life I have found comfort, and found when I live my life intentionally the way He desires me to live, then the benefits are much more beneficial. I would rather live intentionally than a life of chaos and dysfunction. I have chosen to be transformed by the renewing of my mind, rather than conforming to the patterns of the world and for this reason I have been able to determine what God's will is for my life. When I hunker down and really remove myself from all the noise in this world-I will find a still small voice whispering to me that there are promises, protection, and compassion to follow the direction He leads me. How about you? How are you doing in regards to living an intentional life that God designed for you? What actions do you need to take to help you hear God's Will for YOU?!!!

HUMILITY- Its pretty black and white

2010-03-01T13:38:00.000-08:00

Have you ever been humbled in a way that made you feel embarrassed or extremely insecure? Sometimes being humbled can be a good thing. I remember as a freshmen in high school being put in my place a time or two by older junior and seniors. The circumstances were all different, but they all took the wind that was in my sails(or ego) and caused the sail to fall flat. It also caused me to really evaluate what I was saying and the peoples perception of me. As an older high school student I had a peers tell me I was conceited, and I always shot back their is a difference between conceit and confidence. The fact is I lived a life in humility in some areas, and probably not so in other areas. Every once in a while it is great to reflect on things. I often reflect on terms associated with me by the roles I take on. In leadership I think it is important to have the confidence, but also to have a fine balance of humility. I can be wrong and I have people in my life that have permission to tell me when, or point out areas I need help with. With that comes the responsibility to let me know if my "humility factor" is wavering. If people who don't have permission try and speak up I liken it to the saying that says "rules without relationship, will lead to rebellion." I'll flat out ignore those who try and speak up. I can handle criticism...I better be able to because I am human. In leadership it is important to step back and reflect on the word Humility every now and then. Humility in both life and the context of the scripture is a winning spirit of submission and commitment- the absence of arrogance or conceit. I don't like to be around people who have an arrogance about them. Flat out can't stand being around people like that. In life I have encountered them in various places. As leaders, whether small group or a position within a business, I think it is important to have a winning spirit of submission. As a part of my submission I train to find myself HUMBLE in the sight of the Lord. As you lead, may you find this prayer as one of comfort when it comes to HUMILITY:
Lord, I come before you knowing how majestic you are. I come before you with a humble heart knowing how much I need you to get through this day, week, and month. I believe I will move through this day with you giving me strength to listen when I need too, moving when you want me to, and leading when you provide me too. I am believing as I humble myself before you, that you will lead me to success and victory.
Psalm 25:9, 147:6, Ephesians 4:2, James 4:10, and I Peter 5:6 are some of a few great verses to study more to expand your daily devotion with God and help you take on a countenance of humility. Take action and live today in humility to God as you lead.

That's How God Made Me!

2010-02-22T15:05:00.000-08:00

Anytime you have three kids in the house you get comic relief without having to turn on the television. We have tried to raise each of our kids with an understanding of who God is and why it is important to worship Him. One thing we make sure they know is we are all gifted and uniquely made. Each of our kids have a different skill set and each have their own little personality. There are some similarities though: hair color- check, porcelain skin- check; dad's little mini-me's- check (in their own way). One question we ask our kids from time to time is "Why are you so cute?" One time we asked Ella, our 5 year old that question, and here response was "that is how God made me!" We had a great laugh and since then-she answers that question the same way every time. She has a great point to underline. Each of us have been made by God, and each of us is designed with gifts. We are not all the same (thank goodness) in appearance, skill set, understanding, or response. As leaders each of us can develop skills, and some can take them to a very high level. I think what is important though, is that each of you are uniquely YOU! You may be great at one thing and not so great at another. But the fact is we still thank God for what gifts He has given us, and each of us try hard to become the best version of ourselves we can become. The mistake is when we try and become someone we are not, or not intended to be! Now of course God puts people in our loves to challenge us to grow, extend our skill set, and even people who give us a perspective of what or who we do not want to become. God made you, YOU. It is a great day when you can wake up, look in the mirror, and be satisfied with who you are, because that is how God made you! As a leader understand that you have a circle of influence for you to be you-that was God's design.

Leadership 101: Attitude

2010-02-18T14:49:00.000-08:00

Over the years there have been some great movie quotes that have inspired me as I sit back and watch. Each one of my favorite movies have a memorable quote that gave me inspiration the moment I heard it, and still to this day, when I am watching one of these greats. A few years ago there was a movie based on the true story of T.C. Williams High School football team and their struggle for racial integration. The beauty of the story is that the team goes onto be successful and the underlying story of racism is completed because of leadership. Leadership is reflected in the movie from the coaching staff, but also from two leaders on the team- Julius Campbell & Gerry Bertier. These teammates go head to head all throughout the movie and it is a stunning scene that brings me to the point today, when they call each other out. Julius looks at Gerry and says, "attitude reflects leadership, captain." BAM! Right there is the honing point of this blog. For those in any type of leadership, it is our attitude that is reflective of our leadership. People will watch and see how we react or how we respond. This past week, I had to check myself as I displayed an attitude that was not reflective of my leadership. I walked away from a situation frustrated, but determined to make sure that I didn't let my attitude dictate my response. When it comes to leadership, people will follow you if they see an attitude that is worth following. As a leader of a small group, family unit, team at work, or any other cadre it is important to keep our attitude in check and be on our game all the time. YES-always. It is a principle of leadership that is taught at every level of competition from when you are a kid to the teams you are on as an adult. There are hundreds of quotes on attitude, and I won't give you any here, but know this- your attitude is important as a leader. How you respond will always be watched from others if you lead. If your attitude sucks (or stinks for those who prefer that word) then you will be taking a long walk by yourself, and not leading. Attitude is a game changer in leadership, is it a game changer for you right now.

Why Coaches Matter!

2010-02-16T11:58:00.001-08:00

I can look back to every team I ever participated on and tell you the coach that led my teams. I could even tell you a little bit about them. The first team I played was over 27 years ago and it was the skills I learned as a Kindergartener that developed over time to make me the player I am today. The same is true for teachers and professors who spoke into my life in academics. The mistake most people make though in life, is they stop looking to grow because they thinkk they have reached their peak when they get to a certain point in time. This may be the top of their game, the top of their class, the top of their company, or insert your thought here! This is why COACHES MATTER! If we stop having someone push us to be better, grow in areas we don't see, or give us direction in areas where we can be the ebst God intended us to be, then we have missed the point. I have had a coach walking with me for 4 years now. This coach challenges me every time we talk and expands my potential. The accountability that he has gained in my life came over conversations and permissions that I granted him. I am grateful for a coach in my life and as I look to the future of small group life and its leaders, I hope you will let seasoned veterans of small groups come alongside you and help you expand your gifts as a small group leader, as I am challenging them to grow in areas of their lives too. Coaches matter because without them Kobe Bryant would not have succeeded as he did, pastors of the largest churches would not have many congregants, entrepreneuers and indsutry leaders would not have pushed themselves to carve out a specific niche. Coaches matter because without them we we may never realize the potential of greatness that each of us have. Soak in a coach coming alongside you, because you will be better because of it.

Phil Wilson
Community Life & Connections Pastor